We often find ourselves in a state of waiting for happiness, hoping that our professional success will bring us to the best of conditions. Anticipating contentment as a reward for hard work, sacrificing own wellness, hoping that sleepless nights will pay off – we have all been there. The key point is the amount of time you are going to be stuck in those traps.
A review of multiple studies shows that success isn’t followed by happiness. In fact, it is the opposite. If you still think that you will be happy later, here are 3 reasons for you to consider building your success in happiness and not vice versa.
1. Your growth makes you moving
When you are at the beginning of your way, you are full of ambitions and expectations. You put all of your energy to implement ideas in your head. This is the power: doing things and seeing your outputs. At this step, motivation is born. Progress nurtures your motivation.
2. Setting conditions for happiness depriving you of the “Now”
Your work is supposed to complement your personality, giving you an every-day opportunity to realize that you are exactly where you should be. If you are doubting the tension and stress has become a routine, then you have to do maximum to make yourself happy now and not sometime in the future. Here are some tips for you:
• Make a list of gratitudes. Devote some time to writing down 5 things you are grateful for. Every day.
• Be mindful about the present. Take a couple of minutes to make one meditative task: note 5 things you see around you at the moment, 4 things you hear, 3 things you feel, 2 things you smell, 1 thing you taste. Grounding to a current moment is easier than it seemed.
• Write down your resources. If you are not aware of what happiness means to you, you will not be able to achieve it, moreover now. Instead of chasing an empty word, fulfill the consciousness. Write a list in two columns: free resources and paid resources. The first column is about free things, which you enjoy. The second one is with the paid things. When you are done, note in front of each resource the amount of time you devote to it now and the amount you’d like to spend on it. This task is great to see if there are enough happiness sources at your current stage.
• Count positive things. Notice what good happens with you during the day or week, write it down. This will lift your spirit greatly. The main rule – stick to it.
3. Positive moods make space for new goals
Researches prove that happy people feel more confident and energetic to set new aims and achieve them. In addition, happiness is connected with higher incomes, feelings of belonging to a community, and superior work performance.
This surely doesn’t mean that happy people never feel sad. Experiencing negative emotions is a part of a healthy mental state. Nevertheless, positive thinking should be your driving force. Overall, success and happiness are inevitably intertwined. Balancing both is a complex skill, requiring self-awareness, strong will, time, and, undoubtedly, someone you can rely on. I know, it might be tricky to get started, as it is difficult to put your restless mind together with all the stress. Keep in mind: being able to reach out is the first step. Don’t hesitate to ask me any questions if you’re doubtful or curious.
With all my love and care,