More often then not we prioritise everything around us, but ourselves. Nailing that complex project, working 15-hour shifts, taking care of a loved one and giving back to the community takes all energy from us. But if there is nothing left, how can we still find some strength to just be?
There are always so much to do, to manage, to achieve in life that sometimes it feels like we do not see the life itself behind the rush. Caring for yourself may seem easy, but if you’ve tried to do it amidst everything, you definitely know that it’s not.
On the last Friday LIVE in my Facebook group, I invited amazing Lies Helsloot, an author, busy mom, serial entrepreneur, and currently CEO of 2 businesses.
If you haven’t heard, Lies wrote a book “The complete guide to healthy hair. A 3-step program to heal your hair”, in which she has a chapter named “Take You Time”. This concept is all about prevention of burn-out for busy career women. Being too busy in her own business and having a baby along the way she has lost 30% of her beautiful hair and was totally exhausted, had a variety of health problems. Lies needed to take better care of herself so she could also be a good mom and entrepreneur.
Below are a few of the things we have discussed.
There are a number of ways you can “guess” that you are on the way to burn out. Most of them we can divide into two categories: physical and mental. Things like hair loss, mellowness of your skin and eyes, extreme weight loss or weight gain, general health issues not always mean that burning out is the core problem, but they are definitely signs to look out for. Any time that your body goes through unpredictable negative changes is the time when you can sit down and reflect on those changes:
– How do I really feel right now?
– What have been my top 3 priorities in the past month?
– Do I listen to my body and give it what it needs? (Enough sleep, balanced whole foods, a good amount of water, enough movement etc.)
Those questions may seem simple for you, but in the moment of stress, you should always remember a method that I discussed previously – Keep it stupid simple.
When we talk about mental signs of burn out, the first things that come to mind are lack of interest in life, irritation, lack of ability to relax even when it’s your day-off. Lies suggested that we also should look into signs like an increased amount of alcohol consumption and harmful self-talk.
As there are a lot of things that can cause burn-out, there is also a range of ways to prevent and “treat” this state of being. You can try all of them or just start to implement them level by level. The most important, remember – no matter how small your step in the right direction is, you should always celebrate it!
Level 1.Taking care of your skin
When was the last time that you took a nice warm shower or a dive into a bath? Be creative, add some essential oils (only if you don’t have any contraindications), mix a home-made face mask or buy one from a store. Light a candle, take your favourite book and just set a timer for yourself for 20 minutes. The timer is needed only if you have a fear of missing out. This way you’ll know that this short period of time, just 20 minutes, is only for you. And a hot tip from Lies talking from her own experience: don’t start looking at the dust around the bath and cleaning it up!
Level 2. Change your diet.
Your hormones, hence your mood and energy levels are directly linked to your diet. You can start by changing your mindset about the word “diet” that simply means the way you eat and shouldn’t be associated with restrictions and strict rules. Introduce at least 1 vegetable meal per day, add some fresh or dried herbs and greens. If you haven’t tried it yet, do a Meatless Monday.
Level 3. Take you-time
There is a wonderful joy in having a time dedicated to your hobbies or mindfulness practices. Even taking 10 minutes in the morning to stay in silence or read has a lot of influence on your overall well-being.
There are so much that you can do to feel at least a little bit better when you don’t have a chance to get proper rest. I’ll be sharing more tips and techniques over time and I am ready to hear your ideas in our community on Facebook or here in the comments.
Take it one day at a time.
With all my love and care,